Play Hard To Get
Your Personal Guidebook on
How to Play the Game of Love

by Mimi Tanner, author of Calling Men
and Man Mistake Eraser

Is it "playing a game" with a man when you play hard to get?

Yes! Playing hard to get is definitely one of the games of love (as if you didn't know).

Now let me ask you a question.

When did games get such a bad name?

Everyone loves games; from football to cards.  Games are one of life's chief methods of entertainment.

Why are games okay when it comes to sports and backgammon, but not okay when it comes to romance?

Because love is not a game! some say.  How DARE you encourage anyone to play games of the heart!!

Wrong, honey. Love IS a game - the most fun game ever invented - and it has always been a game.

Some people approach love with so many expectations and so much seriousness, and yet they wonder why they have one bad experience after another!

So the first lesson in Hard To Get is to lighten up, if you happen to be one of the Serious Sad Sacks who expect your Prince to love you anyway, WARTS and all, "for yourself" - right now, the right way, and with no game playing whatsoever!

FACT - if you're not playing the game of love, you're missing out on all the fun - and so is the love of your life! This is true whether you're single or you've been married for thirty years.  If you are in a relationship, or you want to be in a relationship, then you will be served best to get very, very good at the game of love.

What about "manipulation"?? 

Many people are against the idea of playing hard to get. They say it's wrong; it's manipulative; it's trickery of the worst order.

First of all, I'm here to show you exactly why that is NOT true.

Second, what those people are really afraid of is that playing hard to get will give you an "unfair advantage."  And you know what?  It will.

Last time I checked, all was still fair in love and war.  I've got news for you - great news, in fact:

There's nothing wrong with playing games when it comes to love - as long as your games are for the benefit of everyone concerned - the benefit right now, and the benefit for the rest of your life - the one you're going to spend together because you're both so in love with each other.

Let the games begin! And when you play the game of love, be sure to play hard to get.
 

Be Hard To Get - or Easy To Forget

Picture this.

A man meets a woman.  He says, "You're a fine-looking woman. I'd like to go out with you and in about a year, we'll get married." She says, "Great! Works for me." 

What's wrong with this picture?

Would you watch a movie if this were the plot? Good God, no.

Why not?  Because it would be BORING!

You wouldn't read a book like that, either. In fact, any book on love, whether it was published last week or 200 years ago - has more of a plot than that!

So why would you want YOUR LOVE LIFE to be boring - when you can create memories and have fun - and still be true to your highest self?
 

How To Play Hard To Get in the Right Way

So tell me - how do men perceive you right now?

Are you the girl next door?  Are you his friend but you want to be more? 

Are you the kind of woman a man loses sleep over, worrying about whether he'll win your heart?

That same man who never calls you back is quite capable of falling head over heels in love with a woman who makes him feel an overwhelming desire to win her. This happens even with guys who say they are "afraid of commitment." Somehow when a certain kind of woman comes along, these guys miraculously lose their fear of commitment because they are so busy trying to get this woman into their lives - determined, in fact.

But what does it take to become that kind of woman in your man's life?

Hard To Get is a home-study program which speaks to the hearts of thousands of women. It's that kind of program that women love to own and generally don't tell the entire world about it - but they devour the book privately and take its principles to heart.

How do you know when you have won his heart?

• When he wants to show you off to his friends.



• When he can't wait to bring home to meet his parents.



• When he calls you during the day to see how you're doing.



• When he does thoughtful things for you - just because.



• When other men are around you at a party, he's confident in you, but... keeping his eye on the situation!

Perceived Value and the Scarcity Factor

One of the great lessons of love is known as the scarcity factor. Plain and simple: people tend to want what they cannot have!

When things are hard to obtain, they seem more valuable - to put it mildly.

What if someone told you that you could buy a 2-year-old Jaguar for $15,000.  What would you think?

You'd think that there must be something wrong with it. (And you'd probably be right.)

When you think of luxury items or designer clothing, what is the number-one thing that sets them apart? Is it the workmanship? The quality?

Perhaps - but far more than that, it's the PRICE.  That is what gets your attention and makes it stand apart from all the others - it costs more, and it's harder to obtain. Fewer people will be able to get it - and if you have it, it's clear that you must have had something special in order to get it.

But things are only as valuable as someone thinks.  And the more rare something is, the more people think it is worth.

I once searched high and low to find a special, out-of-print book.  It was written in the 1950's and few people remembered it.  I was thrilled to finally find the book, and paid $150 over the internet in order to obtain this rare copy. 

Only a few weeks later, the very same book was given to me by a public school librarian who was about to throw it out because no one had checked it out in at least fifteen years.

Obviously some people think that book is valuable - or the price would not have been so high - but for others, it was gathering dust and needed to be discarded.

It's called "perceived value."

How does this apply to relationships between men and women? It really starts on the inside. If you value yourself, it will show, and others will value you more, too.

If you value yourself, you will be focused on your own goals and activities - and less focused every waking minute on some guy.  That automatically makes you more hard to get. 

What's the opposite of hard to get?  It's desperate.  Desperation repels others, and is revealed in a thousand subtle ways - all of which you need to avoid like the plague.

I get a lot of email from women who are spending enormous amounts of time thinking about a guy in their life, but who are not spending enormous amounts of time adding value to their own lives by learning and growing. That is the first step to becoming hard to get.

It's not about being self-absorbed or selfish - it's really about self-respect. The greatest gift you have is YOU. What you do with this gift will affect not only you, but literally thousands of people.

Whether you believe it or not, you already have an image. People know you and are aware of you - your presence is known. Your image is out there. You are somebody already.

Is that somebody the kind of person who is sought after?

Start today to see yourself as the kind of woman who makes men lose sleep thinking about her.
 

What's "Play Hard To Get" All About?

Exactly How to Be Hard To Get

The Chase - Why It Matters So Much to Both of You!

Ultimatums (why you'll never need one, and Plan B if you DO need one)

Men Who Can't Say "I Love You"

Why You Should NEVER Initiate the "Serious Talk" With Any Man

Leaving Frumpville

Enhancing Your Mystery, No Matter How Well He Thinks He Knows You

and much more - to be revealed soon.

Hard to get does not mean impossible to get!  I'll show you how to enjoy "the chase" and how to be in control of your love life and your future.

Being hard to get means you'll never have to settle for less than the happiness you really want.  Discover how the chase will be thrilling and memorable for both of you - with love, respect, fun, and excitement.

Yes, love is a game. Let the games begin! And when you play the game of love, be sure to play hard to get!

With love,
Mimi Tanner
Author of Calling Men, Secrets of Flirting with Men, and Man Mistake Eraser

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