About Hard To Get by writer Mimi Tanner

Hey Beautiful,

It helps to work along with nature - instead of trying to fight against it!

"Hard to Get" is a fundamental truth of human nature. That is one of the themes we're talking about in this program. "Hard to Get" is for the smart woman who doesn't mind shaking things up!

Being hard to get is a response to one of the most basic truths of human nature:

Humans love a feeling of accomplishment. We love to work for something valuable and finally obtain it.

We tend to scorn what is handed to us too easily. We rarely appreciate things which come too easily. We value the things which are elusive - harder to reach, harder to find, harder to get.

As humans, we are created to thrive on desire. Here's a newsflash: You can't desire something you already have!

As with many other realities of life, many people are unhappy about this truth of human nature and waste precious energy fighting against it. They regard it with suspicion and even hostility - even though the truth of it stares them in the face every day!

They may as well be fighting against the sun rising and setting, because their discomfort is not going to change the facts of life! There's just no denying it - being hard to get is a fundamental principle of human nature and particularly, romance. It can even be the make-or-break factor at certain crucial times.

Lots of books and articles say that they disagree with being hard to get and "playing games," but then they proceed to tell people to do the exact same things that you do when you're "hard to get"!

By the way, when did "games" get such a bad name? So games are okay when it's checkers, but not okay when it comes to romance? What Sad Sack came up with that rule? The kind of "games" we're talking about will keep you healthy, happy, and having the time of your life - and so will he.

This theme of human nature has been well known throughout the ages of time. When you can't get something easily - people want it more. Not only that, but the price-tag goes up too. (Check your local market.)

Hard to Get is a time-honored principle for a reason - it has helped hundreds of thousands of women to learn the meaning of valuing themselves and using self-restraint and self-discipline when some of their strongest urges could have resulted in actions that would have NOT worked in their best interests in the long run.

More on "games" in my class "Hard To Get." But make no mistake about it. Love is a game - the most wonderful "game" ever invented. Play to win. Play hard.... to get!

A reader I will call Lucinda agrees with this facet of human nature that "whatever you work for has more value than what you get for free."

She writes:

Hi Mimi,

I suppose the whole thing boils down to a very old principle: whatever you work for has more value (in your mind) than what you get for free.

If you have to court a woman for three months, when you finally sleep with her, it means much more to you than if you slept with her the first night (independently of the objective "quality" of the sex). Something difficult is more meaningful than something easy.

Applied to romance, when the high-maintenance woman makes the man jump through hoops, he's associating her with something valuable, because he has to work so hard for her. Whereas as the non-demanding, "together," low-maintenance woman: well, yeah, she's attractive, but... so what? Why bother?

Hope I'm not overstating my case. ;-)

Best,
Lucinda

A man can't pursue you if you're already his - way too soon, or too easily!

Instead, take lots of time to get to know him... and enjoy the journey instead of focusing on the destination.

Even a minor difference toward being "harder to get" can make a major difference in how
your man responds to you.

Have a great day, and keep your Flirt on!

With love,
Mimi Tanner
Author of "Hard to Get - Your Personal Guidebook on How to Play the Game of Love!"
www.hardtoget.com

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